Thousands of online commentators were outraged after a mother explained why her husband broke their daughter’s smartphone.
In a viral Reddit post posted on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/throwRAhome434 (referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she rewarded her daughter with good grades by buying her a new iPhone and described her husband’s dissatisfaction with that decision in detail.
entitled “[Am I the a**hole] To use my husband’s money to pay for my daughter’s broken Apple iPhone? “
“I bought [my daughter] iPhone and quite frankly, I haven’t seen her this happy in a while,” the original poster began. It’s been refreshing for me because she’s been through some really tough times in the last couple of years. “
After buying her daughter’s iPhone, the original poster said her husband had made it clear that he “wasn’t happy” about it, and that he thought the device would only be a distraction.
“He said [phone] It’ll only distract her from school and housework… Hu [said] I shouldn’t have spent that kind of money, wrote or.
Recently, the original poster said she found out her husband broke the phone she bought for her daughter, and claimed the teenage girl ignored him when he asked her to bring him something from a toolbox in the family garage.
This incident was used as evidence that the iPhone was [a] The effect was bad, but I yelled at him and demanded a replacement, “O.P. wrote.” He said he wouldn’t, so I took the money out of his account and paid for a new iPhone and gave it to my daughter.”
She continued, “He saw what I had done and went towards me, calling me rude and horrific.” “[He] I asked for the money I took, every single penny.”
“My husband said he wouldn’t speak to me a single word until I fixed this, but I already said I don’t owe him anything,” she concluded.
For parents of teens, cell phone related penalties are common.
In 2016, Pew Research Center reported that 65 percent of parents in the United States have resorted to “digital grounding” of their high school-aged children in order to enforce family rules.
Over the past two decades, depriving a teen of mobile phone or internet privileges as punishment has turned into a powerful tool for parents across the country. However, arguments have arisen against this practice, and some experts have warned of the potential consequences in preventing their children’s access to the digital world.
In an interview with the Child Mind Institute, clinical psychologist Beth Peters said that withdrawing a teen’s cell phone can often damage parent-child relationships.
“When you remove a teen’s lifeline to his friends, there’s going to be a huge emotional response,” Peters said. “They’re not trying to solve the problem. They’re not talking to the parents. You’re really setting yourself up for a dishonest teen because they need that contact and they’ll resort to sneaky behavior to get it.”
Although there are many arguments for and against taking away a teen’s cell phone as a punishment, commenters who responded to the viral Reddit post were adamant that breaking a teen’s cell phone could be an indication of bigger problems than any distraction or bad behavior.
Redditor u/TrenttheUncatchable1 wrote in a comment that garnered more than 8000 votes: “Making him pay for an item that he deliberately broke, especially when he knows how hard you can afford to buy it, is perfectly acceptable.”
They continued, “This really needs to be dealt with, and you absolutely need to make sure your daughter isn’t being treated badly as part of your relationship issues.” “Get a couples counseling right away or re-evaluate the marriage, but don’t let your daughter be put in the middle.”
In a separate comment, with nearly 18,000 votes, Redditor u/nesqxick offered a different, more accurate solution.
“Looks like you need to save up for a divorce,” they wrote.
Another Redditor added, “If my partner…breaks my child’s iPhone for ignoring it once, I will file for divorce afterwards.”
NEWSWEEK u/throwRAhome434 has been reached for comment.