The Internet supports the woman’s sale of her late husband’s house “outside from under” in-laws

Members of the popular Internet forum were quick to support a woman who sold her late husband’s house to a buyer other than his parents.

In a viral Reddit post posted on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Clarkal2 (otherwise referred to as the original poster or OP) said she and her husband had separated for a year before his death and detailed the burden that came after she was appointed manager of his estate.

entitled “[Am I the a**hole] To sell my late husband’s house from under his parents? “

The original poster wrote that her in-laws were beneficiaries of several life insurance policies and pension funds, and said they received “a boatload of money,” while she was left to sell her ex-partner’s house.

Adding that she is already financially responsible for her home, the original poster said her in-laws were adamant they wanted to buy their late son’s home, but had slowed down throughout the process.

She wrote: “Since his death his parents have told me they want to buy the house.” “I’ve been waiting for them to go ahead with the purchase since August… and I’ve been paying the mortgage on his house ever since.”

“In February, I warned them that I was tired of paying off two mortgages and needed them to continue with the purchase,” she added.

Despite her husband’s desire to buy the house, the original poster said she had recently received an offer from an outside buyer, much to the chagrin of her late husband’s parents.

“Last week a gentleman called me willing to pay good money for the house,” she wrote. “I warned [my in-laws] Hoping that it would push them to move on on their end, but they sneered and told me I just need to be patient and wait.”

She continued, “It was a whole year of waiting, that they let me pay the mortgage…while they go on vacations, make big purchases and pay off their debts through life insurance.”

She asked, “Am I a pit** to accept an offer from someone who isn’t him?” Is selling their deceased son’s house wrong?

Selling the house of the deceased husband
Redditors have supported a woman who sold her late husband’s home to a buyer other than his parents.
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When someone dies, one of the first actions is to name a person responsible for their property.

Often a surviving spouse or another relative, attorney, or executor named in a final will, the administrator of the estate acts as the legal representative of the deceased party, according to the Internal Revenue Service.

Depending on the laws of a particular state, this can mean that the estate administrator is liable for the deceased’s debts, including unpaid mortgages.

And while there are some protections for grieving family members from “abusive, unfair, or deceptive practices” used to collect debts, the Federal Trade Commission reports that collectors are able to contact spouses, parents, executors, and estate officials soon after death.

During the comments section of the viral post, Redditors noted that her in-laws had numerous opportunities to purchase their late son’s home and gave advice to the original poster.

In the post’s top comment, which has garnered more than 20,000 votes, Redditor u/Lawn_Orderly said the original poster was justified in selling the house and encouraged her to demand payment of her mortgage payments.

“[Not the a**hole], they wrote. “They have given more than enough time to respond and as an administrator, you need to close the estate.”

“Check with your attorney about getting compensation from sale proceeds for mortgage payments you made after your death,” they added.

Redditor u/Petty25Betty, whose comment has more than 4,000 votes, echoed that sentiment and said the original publisher’s children should have received the money that ended up with her in-laws.

“If they wanted the house, they would pay the mortgage,” they wrote. “yes [children] They should have benefited from it.

Redditor u/4682458 added “I’ve given them fair warning. If you want to be generous, tell them the other offer and set a deadline for pulling the trigger.” All communications are through a lawyer.